What to do?

After looking back on this conversation that I had with Renee today, I knew I needed to post it.

The purpose of this blog is for my children to look back and this is a perfect conversation for her to look back on years from now.

She is 16 years old and I love her so much.

Thank you God for blessing me with such an awesome child!

I pray that our relationships continues to get stronger.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 11:52 AM from Queenie to Renee

Okay so what I was saying was that men are known to be the worst communicators.

He honestly may think that everything is cool with not talking to you on a daily basis.

Sometimes we have to help them out.

Reminds me of the saying "you have to teach people how to treat you".

Therefore, if you want to have communication with him on a daily basis, you have to let him know.

But it’s all about the tone you say it in. You can’t be demanding or you can’t be bossy.

Men love to have their egos stroked. They want to always feel like they are men and if at any point we take that away from them…it’s over.

So I’m definitely not saying you need to let him (or anyone for that matter) run over you.

But I’m saying is talk with him. Let him know that if you two are going to be in a relationship, then there must be communication every day.

Let him know that’s important for you since you guys can’t see each other.

Then you go from there. If he still trips….DROP HIM!!!

But you only have to do all of what I said above if you feel like it’s worth your time.

If you’re already tired of the back and forth and the emotional rollercoaster…my love, DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME!!!

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:04 PM from Renee to Queenie

Okay so what I said to him was exactly this: Not trying to be selfish….but could you at least try to send me a text each day. I mean it doesn’t even have to be a full conversation. Just a simple "Hey. Hope you’re doing okay. Can’t talk but I love you bye" that’s all. Sometime I just wanna know that I cross your mind throughout the day

Then he said: I will now….But I like how you didnt consider the fact that I was handling important business lol. I never thought you were a selfish young lady, but now I’m starting to question that.

Sorry last one…so I said: Oh really? Am I really being selfish? I even told you that I understand that you are busy. All I’m asking for is 30 seconds of your time to send me a text. Out of the last 5 days I’ve talked to you like one or two times? You don’t tell me anything anymore. I mean you didn’t even tell me you were graduating. I at least wanted to tell you congrats or something. That is not being selfish at all! 30 seconds Michael just 30 seconds that’s all then you can be done with me.

Is that being bossy? I don’t know I just can’t believe he called me selfish.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:14 PM from Queenie to Renee

*sigh* young love. Not saying that sarcastically or trying to be funny.

But if you truly want my honest advice…move on.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:16 PM from Renee to Queenie

Alright

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:21 PM from Queenie to Renee

Sweetie, you are beautiful, smart and talented. You have a very bright future ahead of you.

You don’t need a knucklehead slowing up your progress.

I’m not saying this because I’m your mother, I’m saying this because it’s true.

You are so much smarter and wiser than almost every girl your age.

So don’t let the affects of feelings of wanting to be in a relationship mess that up for you.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:23 PM from Renee to Queenie

It’s just hard to break up. I haven’t had to do this in a while

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:29 PM from Queenie to Renee

And like I’ve told you before, this won’t be the last time.

But what your focus should be on right now in your life is not about breaking up with someone but on enjoying your youth.

Getting excited about your bright future. Thinking about our awesome trip to Rio in less than 2 years.

Getting your permit so you can get your license. Making good grades in school and aiming for as many scholarships as possible.

Researching schools so you can make a good decision on where you want to apply.

Getting into programs that will further your future. Spending time with your girlfriends.

All of that other stuff will definitely come…whether you do it now or wait til later.

The difference will be, if you wait until later…there will be less heartache.

Work on you. Work on becoming the woman that God has created you to be. If you do that, God will send you the man he has planned for you.

And you know God. You know he wants the best for us and for us to be happy. So if it’s someone that God has ordained for you…

GIRL…YOU ARE GOING TO BE SO HAPPY! YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO EXPRESS IT!!!

Know what I mean?

Tuesday, June 19, 2012 1:09 PM from Renee to Queenie

Yes ma’am and by far you are the one who gave me the best advice thank you mommy

Always supporting my friends

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Bucket List

I saw the blog for Bucket List Publications and started following it immediately.

The places that Lesley has visited are absolutely awesome and she kicks my butt into gear to go out there and make these things happen for myself.

Bucket List Publications’ goal is to “make the bucket list dreams of others come true”. That is absolutely awesome and a great thing to do for others.

I’m checking out their site to see the places visited and see what can be added to my bucket list that I haven’t even thought of that I can truly make a reality.

Actually, that’s exactly what I do – show people how to make their bucket list dreams become their bucket list reality. Whether it’s skydiving, swimming with the dolphins, building a bottle school in a third world country, vacationing in Fiji, or even just being able to throw the alarm clock away and never have to use it again (this is #1 on my bucket list)…all your dreams can actually become a reality. My goal is to share with everyone who is willing to know how simple it is to make this happen for themselves.

I was told that the best thing you can do for yourself is to dream big and then go out there and make it happen. I absolutely love that I can help others make that happen. It brings so much joy to me to see others happy, smiling, enjoying life and having a good time.

 My ever-growing bucket list (most things are places to visit): 
I’ll only list a few.

1. Throw away the alarm clock (more on this in another post)
2. Skydive
3. Swim with dolphins
4. Visit Fiji
5. Visit Tahiti
6. Tour of Italy
7. Tour of China
8. Voluntourism trips
9. Visit Thailand
10. Mediterranean cruise
11. Visit Rome
12. Scuba diving in coral reefs
13. Fantasy Special Ops Adventure
14. Visit Germany
15. Visit Israel
16. Visit Egypt
17. Visit Japan

 Most importantly, take my girls to places that most people only see on TV or read about in books.

 I’ll end with one of my favorite quotes:

 Life is like a book, and those who do not travel only read one page.

 I’m determined to read the WHOLE BOOK. Who wants to join me in the book club of life?

I’d love for you to take the journey with me,
Much love,
Queenie

A New Chapter

So this year for my birthday, I had so much going on that I didn’t get a chance to do a reflection email. After last year when I did my reflection email, I realized that I hadn’t made any real progress. I was doing the same thing the previous year.

But this year, this year was a definite change. This year for my birthday I was practically running our department. We didn’t have any leadership and I was asked to fill in. This was a good thing. This experience prepared me. Made a huge difference in my life. The tiring and exhausting experience made me a stronger and more confident person.

But before I go any further, let me make sure I say that it was all because of God. God made all of this possible. If it weren’t for Him, none of this would have been possible.

This experience made it possible for me to begin a new chapter in my life. I was able to quite my job, without looking back, without any regret, and walk through the door of an awesome opportunity that God opened for me.

I’m actually at an organization where they want to actually follow the rules and do the write thing. There are employees who really want to do their job and do a good job at it and not just do enough to get by. It’s great. It’s only been a week but it’s still great.

I can’t wait to see what I’ll be able to post at next year’s birthday reflection time.

On other notes:
Way behind in school assignments. I’m really going to have to get busy this weekend. I don’t think there’s any way possible to do 2 assignments this weekend but I’m sure going to try.
Pudds got her splint taken off. She was ecstatic about that. I guess I couldn’t have talked about it because the last time I posted it was 9/19 – the big break happened on 9/26. After she had gotten stuck in the tree on the 4th of July, I told her not to get back in it. Well, she did and fell and broke her wrist. Because of that, she missed out on learning to play the guitar and playing with her basketball team. I guess that’s what happens when you don’t follow directions.

Okay, it’s late and I’m getting sleepy so hopefully (I know, I say this every time) I will write sooner next time.

Do I Have To?

It’s that time of year again. HOMEWORK!! And I’m just not feeling it right now. I’m in the car, all the windows are down, there’s a slight breeze and the XM station Spa is playing. I think it has got me too relaxed. I’m supposed to be reading Linear Algebra while Pudds is in basketball practice. But everytime I put me head down to read, my eye lids get heavy and want to close.

A lot of the heavy eye lids may have something to do with the 4 hours of sleep I got last night. I hadn’t even thought about my lack of sleep until just now. I guess when you’re always on the go, there’s no time to think about when I’m going to get any rest. But my body will shut down in a minute and ask “do I have to do that?”
So I’ve mentioned that I’m taking Linear Algebra this semester. Well I’m also taking Calculus 3. I’ve already completed a chapter in that and it was a lot easier than I thought it would be. Definitely a lot easier than this linear algebra crap I’m doing.

I wanna ask: do I have to do linear algebra? But there’s no need – the answer will be yes if you want a degree in math.

Other DO I HAVE TO’s:
* …go to work tomorrow?
* …sit here and wait for this child to finish basketball practice? * …go back out tonight to pick up Pumpkins from volleyball game?
* …get up early (again) on a Saturday to drop a kid off at yet another school activity? * …help my mother with her moving sale? (I’m not doing this one) * …go out late tomorrow night to pick up Pumpkins from volleyball game?
* …think of something to cook for dinner? (Oh yeah, I’m off the hook for this one tonight & tomorrow – hubby will be doing this – LOVE YOU BABE!!!)

Alright, I better get back to reading this algebra so I can try and stay on schedule.

Until the next time – PEACE

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Day before….

It’s 1:25am and I’m still awake. I can’t believe it. I even took two benedryls and I’m still awake.

You know that feeling you get the DAY BEFORE school?

You know that feeling you get the DAY BEFORE you go on a big vacation that you’ve been waiting months for?

Well I think that’s my problem now. I’m having the DAY BEFORE syndrome.

In about 6 1/2 hours I have a meeting with someone about a possible new opportunity. I’m really excited about it. It’s like just when you’re thinking that there’s no hope, GOD comes along and opens that door for you.

But if I don’t get any sleep, I’m not too sure how well of a meeting this will be. I’ll just grab some caffeine in the morn and go with it and then just about the time I start to crash, I’ll call it a day and go home for a nap.

Well, until further news, praying that its good, I’ve gotta go.

Peace

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Time Flies

It’s been a really long time since I’ve done any posts. I have been so busy that I haven’t been able to breathe.

Wednesday night was the last of the track season – Thank God! It ended with the CYO Finals and Pumpkins did a great job. Especially with it being her first time ever running track. Although I believe she’s good at it and she makes it look effortless, she has vowed to never run track again. I guess volleyball will always be her passion.

Now we’re gearing up for graduation next week. I can’t believe she’ll be starting high school in the fall. Where in the world does the time go? When I look up again she’ll be graduating high school and getting ready for college.

Another parent and I are taking the 8th grade class on their 8th grade field trip on Monday. Everyone is excited. Especially the kids – they love amusement parks.

Well, I gotta get back to my homework. My semester ends Monday and I still have 4 more assignments to complete.

Peace

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A Longer Road

I’ve decided to not try and graduate in 2012. To do that, I’d have to go to school full time and take a class next summer. I was already pushing myself to the limit this semester trying to take 3 classes, work full-time and take the girls all over the city with them each playing volleyball in January and February and then with one doing track now and the other doing track and basketball now. There was no way I could turn in an assignment a week in two of my classes. So….I decided not to push myself, drop one of my classes this semester and only take 2 classes a semester until I graduate. I really hated dropping a class but I had to do it. This plan may push my graduation date back to 2014 but that’ll be okay with me. I’ll still be getting my degree and I won’t be more stressed than needed in the process. But if 2014 is the year for graduating, all 4 of us could be graduating: Me (bachelor of science in mathematics), Hubby (associates of science in criminal justice), Pumpkins (high school), and Pudds (8th grade). We’ll just have one huge party. 🙂

Well, that’s all I’m going to do right now even though it’s been over a month since my last post. I’m 3 weeks behind on one of my classes and all 3 assignments are due by the end of the week so I’ve gotta get busy.

I’ll have to write later and talk about a tragic incident that happened last week to one of Pudds’ best friend.

Happy Birthday Pudds!

Today my baby turned 10. When I asked her about it she said she didn’t feel like it. Said she felt like she was still 9. We just left having dinner (she wanted to go to Chili’s) and presented her with her cell phone. She’s really excited. Learning how to text and enter phone numbers. She’s in the back seat of the car now texting and giggling with her older sister.

The only downfall about her birthday is that every year she’s sick. But my baby is alive and that’s a true blessing. It’s moments like these that make me so happy to be a mother. I love my kids so much.

I had to explain to her though that during the school week, it’s an emergency only phone – no texting & chit-chatting. But on the weekend she can have free reign. This is just one more thing that can be taken away when she’s punished.

Since we’re almost home, I’m going to end this. When I get home I’ve gotta get more homework done.

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CHANGE

It’s 2010 and there will be a lot of changes this year. Is change good or bad? That’s all in the eye of the beholder. Take for instance, I’m making changes to the way we go about keeping our house clean. To be honest, in the past, it’s been mostly me doing the cleaning. I’m talking about the real cleaning. The down and dirty cleaning. The kids have mostly just been straightening. But they are about to be 10 and 14 so I think it’s about time that they know how to do the down and dirty cleaning. And there will be a strict punishment if the cleaning is not kept up. If I see anything out of place, that’s it – they are getting it. For me, this change is good. For the kids, not so much. But there comes a point in time when you get tired of the mess and if the old way isn’t working, then it’s time to make a change.

Something else that’s definitely different is that I just ordered Pudds a cell phone. She’ll be 10 in 2 weeks and next school year she will definitely need one because her sister will be in high school. She will be having to walk after school by herself and will need a phone for communication with me and in case of an emergency. Her sister will probably get upset because she didn’t get a phone until she was 12 but things change. Situations change. If she starts having an attitude about it, I’ll take her phone from her. Heck, I didn’t get my first cell phone until I was 20 years old. And I had to get it myself. My mommy and daddy didn’t get me anything. These kids now a days are so spoiled (so blessed) and they just don’t realize it.

There’s also going to be less tv watching, less game playing, less phone texting and less computer time. And yes, that goes for mommy too. This is the first week of their 3^rd quarter and they were both close (2 B’s away) from getting straight A’s. So, if we make some changes, maybe they’ll get straight A’s the next two quarters. We can strive for it at least. Also, I start back to school on 1/29 and I really want to stay on track this semester. Every semester I get better at staying on track and getting everything done but it never fails that by the end, I’m still hustling trying to get a lot of work done and I get stressed. I really want to save myself from that. Semester ends 5/14 and I’ll have a whole 3 months off. I haven’t that since I went back in 4/08. It will be so nice but I won’t know what to do with myself. It’ll be a great time to get a lot of stuff done around the house, spend time with the kids since they’ll be out for summer break and do a lot of reading.

 Another change that is really good is that hubby has started school. I never thought he would but he put that foot on out there and stepped. I’m proud of him though. He got an A+ on his first assignment in History. I’m taking history this semester, he might have to help me. LOL!

Looking forward to my furlough. To help with budget, our company has made everyone take a mandatory week furlough. I’m not complaining about it because I still have a job. But not getting paid that week will really make the budget go crazy. And this is the 2^nd/3^rd year without a raise. That hurts too when the price of everything else around us is continually going up. But like I said before, I have a job. I’m a lot better off than a lot of other people who are also struggling. So thank you God!!!!

Well, time to get ready for bible study. Won’t be able to make a lot of them because this is volleyball season for the girls. So whenever at all possible, I’m going to go. Get some word from the Lord on how to live an impactful life.