After looking back on this conversation that I had with Renee today, I knew I needed to post it.
The purpose of this blog is for my children to look back and this is a perfect conversation for her to look back on years from now.
She is 16 years old and I love her so much.
Thank you God for blessing me with such an awesome child!
I pray that our relationships continues to get stronger.
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 11:52 AM from Queenie to Renee
Okay so what I was saying was that men are known to be the worst communicators.
He honestly may think that everything is cool with not talking to you on a daily basis.
Sometimes we have to help them out.
Reminds me of the saying "you have to teach people how to treat you".
Therefore, if you want to have communication with him on a daily basis, you have to let him know.
But it’s all about the tone you say it in. You can’t be demanding or you can’t be bossy.
Men love to have their egos stroked. They want to always feel like they are men and if at any point we take that away from them…it’s over.
So I’m definitely not saying you need to let him (or anyone for that matter) run over you.
But I’m saying is talk with him. Let him know that if you two are going to be in a relationship, then there must be communication every day.
Let him know that’s important for you since you guys can’t see each other.
Then you go from there. If he still trips….DROP HIM!!!
But you only have to do all of what I said above if you feel like it’s worth your time.
If you’re already tired of the back and forth and the emotional rollercoaster…my love, DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME!!!
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:04 PM from Renee to Queenie
Okay so what I said to him was exactly this: Not trying to be selfish….but could you at least try to send me a text each day. I mean it doesn’t even have to be a full conversation. Just a simple "Hey. Hope you’re doing okay. Can’t talk but I love you bye" that’s all. Sometime I just wanna know that I cross your mind throughout the day
Then he said: I will now….But I like how you didnt consider the fact that I was handling important business lol. I never thought you were a selfish young lady, but now I’m starting to question that.
Sorry last one…so I said: Oh really? Am I really being selfish? I even told you that I understand that you are busy. All I’m asking for is 30 seconds of your time to send me a text. Out of the last 5 days I’ve talked to you like one or two times? You don’t tell me anything anymore. I mean you didn’t even tell me you were graduating. I at least wanted to tell you congrats or something. That is not being selfish at all! 30 seconds Michael just 30 seconds that’s all then you can be done with me.
Is that being bossy? I don’t know I just can’t believe he called me selfish.
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:14 PM from Queenie to Renee
*sigh* young love. Not saying that sarcastically or trying to be funny.
But if you truly want my honest advice…move on.
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:16 PM from Renee to Queenie
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:21 PM from Queenie to Renee
Sweetie, you are beautiful, smart and talented. You have a very bright future ahead of you.
You don’t need a knucklehead slowing up your progress.
I’m not saying this because I’m your mother, I’m saying this because it’s true.
You are so much smarter and wiser than almost every girl your age.
So don’t let the affects of feelings of wanting to be in a relationship mess that up for you.
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:23 PM from Renee to Queenie
It’s just hard to break up. I haven’t had to do this in a while
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:29 PM from Queenie to Renee
And like I’ve told you before, this won’t be the last time.
But what your focus should be on right now in your life is not about breaking up with someone but on enjoying your youth.
Getting excited about your bright future. Thinking about our awesome trip to Rio in less than 2 years.
Getting your permit so you can get your license. Making good grades in school and aiming for as many scholarships as possible.
Researching schools so you can make a good decision on where you want to apply.
Getting into programs that will further your future. Spending time with your girlfriends.
All of that other stuff will definitely come…whether you do it now or wait til later.
The difference will be, if you wait until later…there will be less heartache.
Work on you. Work on becoming the woman that God has created you to be. If you do that, God will send you the man he has planned for you.
And you know God. You know he wants the best for us and for us to be happy. So if it’s someone that God has ordained for you…
GIRL…YOU ARE GOING TO BE SO HAPPY! YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO EXPRESS IT!!!
Know what I mean?
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 1:09 PM from Renee to Queenie
Yes ma’am and by far you are the one who gave me the best advice thank you mommy